I’ve lived in all sorts of places, from really very, very humble to sometimes quite spacious and grand. I’ve visited friends new and old in all sorts of places too, be they ever so humble and also some pretty grand. I don’t give a monkey’s toss about the surroundings, I’m coming in to see you and share some kindness reciprocated both ways.
Back in the day, when I’ve took my family with me to places, I’ve attempted to show by example. That whatever is called “Home” and even if it is not (but just a stop gap or squat), to treat other people with respect and their property. Respect goes a looooong way Pal, respect and being polite. So, Worf from Star Trek sums it up, how I personally sometimes react to being in strange and unfamiliar places or meeting people for the first time or homes where there’s been tension. My attempt at politeness under the strain is restricting. I’m either a bit like Worf and as he says “Good tea, nice house” or an overwhelmed blabbermouth attempting to connect. I think sometimes jibber jabber is good, but I could be wrong, it’s happened many times before.
Anyways, sometimes just a few complimentary words is all that’s needed to be polite on first encounter. I must try to remember that: Polite is good enough! On the flip side of that same coin, is my Mother’s advice of ‘If you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all’. This too can work a lot of the time, but not always.
Sometimes though, you will feel the need to SPEAK UP! You and the situation needs to hear it said, so say it like it is! So what if you’re never gonna be welcomed back again, that is literally “Good for you!” If you speak up against cruelty and get booted out, then we have something in common and I sincerely wish you “Good Luck with that!” and it’s totally 100% why I’m not invited back to some places and don’t want to be either!
So basically, if you wanna “Yes”man you just better look somewhere else Pal! Now, yer gonna invite me in for a cuppa or not?