Getting our thoughts into a kind focus, can be a bit like doing a jigsaw puzzle. Without all the input, it’s full of holes that need filling and we’ll need all the pieces to make the picture become whole. At times it might take ages. Perhaps never finishing it, especially if you keep putting it off and pouring all the pieces back into the box over and over again. Sometimes it can be just so easy to work out, especially if you have been shown a simple way. Here’s one simple way:
1) You have no power over what I think.
2) I have no power over what you think.
1) What I think about you is all about me and none of your business. I can therefore choose to think fearfully or look forward to meeting me more, via my reactions to you.
2) What you think about me is all about you and absolutely none of my business.
I hope this helps. Plus I’ve put a few links below to others who might be better to help you if you’re having a hard time with invasive thoughts.
If you’re having trouble right now with thoughts and need to talk you can call at any time free to the Samaritans 116 123
or if you are a child call for free to Childline 0800 1111
I’ve just heard about The Mix which is a free support service for people under 25 to call 0808 808 4994 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org
and Mind is a mental health charity open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 33 93
and Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0300 5000 927 open Monday to Friday 10am-4pm